Are you and your partner writing your own wedding vows? Read these tips before you begin
Wedding Vow Ideas – The thought of writing your own wedding vows may seem quite daunting initially, but it’s such a beautiful way to add a unique flair to your wedding.
Here are just a few tips for you to consider.
Read examples of wedding vows for some Inspiration.
If you practice a certain faith, start by reading the traditional wedding vows, explore all the traditional vows. You could try and incorporate the original wording into yours, simply use the structure as a base point.
Here are just a few examples of traditional wedding vows from different religions:
“I, ___, take you, ___, for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part.”
“I, ___, take you, ___, to be my husband/wife. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love and honor you all the days of my life.”
“Let us take the first step to provide for our household a nourishing and pure diet, avoiding those foods injurious to healthy living.
“Let us take the second step to develop physical, mental and spiritual powers.
“Let us take the third step to increase our wealth by righteous means and proper use.
“Let us take the fourth step to acquire knowledge, happiness and harmony by mutual love and trust.
“Let us take the fifth step so that we are blessed with strong, virtuous and heroic children.
“Let us take the sixth step for self-restraint and longevity.
“Finally, let us take the seventh step and be true companions and remain lifelong partners by this wedlock.”
“I, ___, take you, ___, as my wedded wife/husband and I promise you love, honor and respect; to be faithful to you, and not to forsake you until death do us part. So help me God, one in the Holy Trinity and all the Saints.”
Basic Protestant Vows
“I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith [or] pledge myself to you.”
“______, wilt thou have this woman/man to be thy wedded wife/husband to live together after God’s ordinance in the Holy Estate of matrimony? Wilt thou love her/him? Comfort her/him, honor and keep her/him, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others keep thee only unto her/him as long as you both shall live?”
“In the name of God, I, ______, take you, ______, to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.”
Make a list of things about your relationship.
Take stock of your feelings towards one another and inject this into your marriage vows. How did you feel when you first met? How did you first meet? Was it love at first sight?
Write it all down and put your thinking hat on. Here is a list of questions to get you started:
- When did you meet?
- How did you meet?
- When did you decide you were meant for one another?
- Why have you decided to marry?
- Have you overcome any challenges over the years which have made you stronger as a couple?
- When did you realise you were in love?
- What do you love the most about your partner?
Come up with promises
The promises you make to your partner is the most important part of the wedding vow. Try and include promises which are broad and specific. An example of a broad wedding vow would be: “I promise to support you throughout your life”
An example of a specific promise: “ I promise I will say “I love you” at least three times a day, but most importantly before you close your eyes every night before bed”
Avoid cheesy clichés.
Once you have your draft written out. Take some time to go through it and make some edits.
My biggest tip is to avoid and cheesy cliche material. The main point of writing your own vows is to bring the essence of your relationship to the wedding and showcase your unique love for one another.
When you look back on your wedding video or talk about it with your family and friends, you will not regret using someone else’s cheesy poems or quotes.
Something like “In my eyes, you will always be the same beautiful being I met all those years ago. You could wear a garbage bag for all I care, to me you are gorgeous” This sounds a lot more genuine and heartfelt than, say “Love is blind”
Practice, practice and practice!
Yes, I know, it may be a tad bit awkward, but trust me, better you practice at home in front of your mirror or in front of your friends now, than fumbling your way through it on your wedding day. I can’t imagine your partner being too happy either!
When you practice it, don’t just memorise the words, try to improve your tone and gesturing as you go on. I’m not saying go crazy with your gestures nor am I saying put on an award-winning Oscar performance. I mean, memorise the words to the point where you can comfortably look at your own self in the mirror and recite your vows imagining your partner is staring right back at you (without reading from paper if possible). Maybe each time you recite them, take a look at a picture of your partner, I’m sure you will find that inspiration to get your vows just perfect.
Make a clean copy for yourself.
Make sure you have printed out a few copies, and have one copy with legible text. No cross-outs or notes or arrows, please. Print out or give a digital copy to your Wedding Celebrant, as a “just in case” measure.
It is also worthwhile paying close attention to the look of the paper you are writing or typing your vows on. Firstly, it will be in the wedding photos and the last thing you want is to have photos taken of you holding up a crumpled up piece of paper or bright blue stick it notes!
Secondly, you and your partner may want to hold on to the wedding vows as a keepsake.
Wouldn’t it be nice to have it and look over it or even recite it on your anniversary?
If you are recently engaged and are looking for a wedding celebrant, get in touch with me. Our first meeting is free and without any obligation. I am able to assist you in writing your wedding vows, or we can absolutely use the traditional vows. Whatever suits you!
This is your wedding and I will be there to support you and make it Distinctively yours.
Karine Alp Celebrant – Wedding Vow Ideas
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Karinne Alp Celebrant – Marriage Celebrant Mornington Peninsula – Wedding Vow Ideas
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